#bullying tw

[pansyboybloom]

as a teacher, reading about nex makes me fucking furious because I've seen that hate in the students I've taught. people who say young people aren't bigoted and once the old fucks die off the world will be perfect have no idea how cruel children can be when influenced by society's bigotry. while working with 8th grade, i had multiple situations of children harassing lgbt students, screaming slurs at black students, and mocking disabled, especially autistic, students. i was misgendered and degendered by these kids daily without them even knowing i was trans or gay, just that i was a feminine man. i had to dress hyper-masculine to have a smidgen of respect, and god forbid i let my disability show.

but what sticks with me the most when thinking about nex is when i had to intervene when a child proudly announced that she would murder her baby if they were trans (specifically nonbinary) because nb people were freaks, fully aware the person sitting next to her was trans. when i tried to intervene, i was disciplined because i was 'teaching my personal politics'.

this is what our schools look like. when people say they cant believe these girls could do this, i shake my head because, to me, it's no wonder nex is no longer with us. nex was a child with intersecting minority identities. our society is cruel and bigoted, and it is influencing our children. we HAVE to fix society because until we do, kids will stay cruel and kids will keep dying

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I was bullied horrendously for not knowing the correct way to address the Pope.

[sailor-brunette]

I am sick and tired of seeing shit takes from people about how characters like Sawako (Kimi ni Todoke) and Miyo (My Happy Marriage) are "unfeminist" because they're shy and soft-spoken. When Miyo is literally that way as a SURVIVAL TACTIC because SHE WAS FUCKING ABUSED And Sawako is showed to have social anxiety and the other kids are shown to kind of bully her. But both girls gain confidence and strength as both series progress. NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE TO BE STONE COLD BADASSES TO BE STRONG!!! Geez…

[anti-ao3]

I just hate the way people undermine the long term effects that bullying can have on someone. Abuse overall is never taken seriously, but I feel like bullying is a special case, especially if it happens in school, because everyone expects you to get over it since it's just "kids being kids" (or "boys being boys" more specifically).

Society acts like bullying won't affect adults. But adults can be bullied, whether in college, work, anywhere really. And teens who were bullied will likely struggle with a lot of traumatic responses when they grow up, such as hypervigilance, social anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts etc.

I'm just so tired of my trauma from bullying being neglected to this day. So many therapists tell me I'm just "brooding" - or that it isn't even bullying since it never got physical or too "obvious" - and that I should move on, except I never had any support when I was in school, and I still rarely get support as an adult.

Bullying should not be normalized. It should never be okay.

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

i'll say it. spop's whole running gag of bullies/abusers being all tsundere was not cute.

i'm talking about catra "affectionately" calling adora an idiot or saying “this is not because i like you”, as if she gave adora any reason to think that she actually likes her.

i'm talking about mermista "affectionately" calling entrapta a weirdo minutes after she treated entrapta like shit, and only accepts entrapta after she proves to be useful.

i'm talking about lonnie "affectionately" saying something along the lines of “we knew you'd go and mess it up like always” to kyle after all the times she bullied him.

it's not cute when an abuser/bully tries to act coy after mistreating someone, and insult them even more "as a form of affection".

playful insults and teasing can be endearing if it's a healthy relationship and the other person understands that it's just a joke. i'm not saying that calling someone an idiot or a weirdo is automatically an abusive thing.

but when you've always treated them like trash and your only way of showing affection is by demeaning them even more, you're just adding insult to the injury. it's not cute, it's just manipulative.

[uncanny-tranny]

I truly hope that the younger generation isn't being told that when they are being teased or bullied it's because their tormenter secretly likes them.

Somebody liking you doesn't mean they should smack you, pull your hair, tease you, berate you, call you names, make fun of your appearance, make fun of your cultural background or immigration status, or anything else. When you talk about these things, you deserve to be taken seriously. Being written off is a dangerous thing, especially if you are being bullied.

Bullying is not love or admiration.

[adorawasright]

(not spop)

i rewatched toh's "yesterday's lie" the other day, and while i enjoy this episode on its own, i think it ended up being confusing as the show went along. mostly bc yesterday's lie makes luz look bad for running away.

it turns out that summer camp wasn't all that bad since vee made some cool friends there, and camila drove to camp with luz instead of going to work, not to mention how much camila supports luz's interests. even vee herself calls luz out, even calling her ungrateful for throwing camila and everything else away.

and smth that keeps bothering me is that, as far as i'm concerned, we don't see luz actually being bullied, not even in flashbacks. what we do see most of the time is luz putting other ppl's lives in danger. she was supposed to learn to separate fantasy from reality, as said in the very first episode. which... doesn't even happen in the long term, since luz gets to have both worlds.

like, we see, for example, luz fearing she'll get ridiculed by amity, or worrying vee is going to embarrass herself. additionally, luz is protective of willow and her other friends when they're bullied themselves. like, these are valid reactions of someone who was bullied in the past. but again, when we do see luz interacting with her peers before the demon realm, she often creeps them out or straight up puts their lives in danger. i don't recall seeing anyone outright bullying luz for her interests.

yesterday's lie poses an interesting perspective, "what if luz stayed?". but it also doesn't make sense since the show is also trying to tell us that luz wasn't happy in the human realm, and wouldn't be happy in summer camp, and that she was indeed being marginalized. thanks to them showed camila's side of the whole thing, that she was pressured into sending luz to camp because of the school principal (iirc). but again, even the flashbacks show the other kids mostly being creeped out by luz, nothing more than that.

in conclusion: i do not understand what toh was trying to tell us. at first, it shows that luz didn't need to run away, that she needed to mature and separate fantasy from reality. but then the show contradicts itself entirely by not having luz go through that kind of growth, because school, society overall is in the wrong. and they don't give a lot of nuance. it's like luz doesn't have to grow up.

(and this is because i haven't even touched on the fact that luz is so attached to good witch azura because of her dad. this is never brought up again.)

[azuremist]

ever since i was born naked, destiny written on my palm, there's not a single day in the prophecy calendar of life when i'm not alone.

"jordan river" by vivinos.

[irondad-defensesquad]

in which the bullying particularly stings when peter messes up at the school lab, and flash mocks, "and you call yourself tony stark's intern".

in which peter genuinely believes he's not good enough to be in tony's lab - or hell, in tony's life at all.

[handjawab]

bullying tw

Note: This is heavily inspired by that scene with Flash Thompson and Peter Parker in the Amazing Spider Man movie.

bully!Bakugou who is self-aware...

He says the worst possible things to you regularly and is an expert at making you feel like shit. He prides himself in knowing what buttons to push and exactly when to push them to make you feel like you don't deserve to take up space. As a result, he's attentive so when you're hurting and it's not because of him, he's the first to notice. And he's... weird about it.

You've been moping around all day and Bakugou's just decided he's going to get to the bottom of it, "Oi. What the hell's wrong with you?"

You ignore him.

"Don't fucking ignore me. You know that just makes it worse."

"I'm just not in the mood today, Katsuki. Please."

"When are you ever in the mood, huh?"

'okay that's it," you get up and leave the room. He follows you. Because of course he does.

When you get to your class, he sits down right next to you and watches intently as you get your books out of your bag.

As the minutes pass, his presence starts to weigh on you. It was already difficult to breathe today, but he makes it worse. But you knew that; He never makes anything easier.

Before you fully realise what you're doing, you turn around, slap him across the face, and ask, "What the hell do you want from me?"

For a fraction of a second, a flash of murderous intent crosses his features but then his mouth opens slightly in what you assume is surprise and he puts a palm to his cheek, where you slapped him.

A couple seconds later, he relaxes his face, the corners of his mouth raising up slightly, "There we go... There she is," he coos, never taking his eyes off you.

You're stressed out and overwhelmed and you're tired of his shit (what's new). And the tears start streaming down your face. Because of course they do.

You're so fucking predictable and now you've slapped him.

Sure, he deserved it. But not today. You can't deal with another thing today.

You wipe at the tears violently, like you're trying to push them back into your eyes, anticipating what usually comes next: some wise-crack about you crying.

But he doesn't say anything. He just pulls your hands away from your face gently, like he's afraid he might break you.

He holds them away from your face and watches you struggle against yourself to collect your bearings. The tears don't fucking stop.

The scrutiny burns. He just stares at you. Expressionless. You should feel vulnerable but it feels like he's the vulnerable one in this situation — letting you see a version of him that's neither angry nor pissing you off.

He drops your hands and wipes the tears off your face with the sleeves of his t-shirt (futile action because they keep coming afterwards) and says, "do you want to skip class?"

You take a deep, ragged breath to avoid sounding shaky when you say, "yeah, that'd be nice"

He holds your hand like he's afraid to lose you in the crowd when he walks you through the corridors to an empty classroom.

"Sit down"

You don't react so he sighs and sits you down on a chair himself.

"and- stop crying for fuck's sake," he almost looks sheepish.

For some reason, you cry harder. You can't help it. You're hurting. He's being... strange and it's perplexing.

He rakes a frustrated hand through his hair leans back in his chair, and says, "okay. You have the floor. Cry. However long you need to."

[hmshermitcraft]

Zed used to be bullied when he was little - a lot.

He became more angry and spiteful in highschool. If you have no one close, no one will betray you, after all.

Somehow, the ITS managed to weasel their way into his heart.

They managed to make him smile again, eventually.

Zed stopped throwing punches against every threat. Started giggling and laughing with them.

It takes him a lot to eventually realize he's in love with them, and then tell them. Especially since they're laughing and- what. What do you mean you guys already knew?! Why didn't you guys tell me I was in love with you?! Skizz stop laughing I'm not cute-

The problem is that Zed is adorable. He can throw one hell of a punch (as each of them know) but he's so cute.

Him not realising he had a massive crush? Sorry, even cuter! They don't make the rules.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

My high school bully tried to kill me but my Digimon partner (I think it was either a Rust Tyranomon or a Dorbickmon) came in and bit her vagina.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

tw bullying

suspected npd + ptsd + low self esteem culture is getting just a little bit more confident in yourself and then being a little more comfortable with asking people to do or not do xyz because you have a good reason. then being told "you just have to be the center of attention" and having flashbacks to grade school where your "friends" beat you black and blue for that reason.

but uh oh, my other biggest narc trait is that i self sacrifice for attention. you're watching tv really loud? no, it's fine, i have a migraine but wtv. oh, you wanted to talk about this subject? it's extremely triggering for me, but go on ahead! ...why the fuck aren't you asking if im okay. do i actually have to let myself have a breakdown over this fucking shit? im not that weak. im not that pathetic. why wont you notice me.

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[clonedchaos]

𝔐𝔞𝔠𝔥𝔦𝔫𝔢 𝔐𝔢𝔪𝔬𝔯𝔦𝔢𝔰- 𝔇𝔞𝔶 15: 𝔇𝔯𝔞𝔣𝔱

Summary:

Jane has a bright new idea... She just hopes it can make the cut.

Rating: G/PG

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Jane's pencil danced across the page like a pirouetting ballerina. Her lunch lay abandoned at her side; leftover tuna salad wasn’t too appealing anyways. She had just gotten into the groove of a new design, and the inspiration was practically spilling out of her and into the lead on the paper. Eating could wait.

A little curl here, some shading there. Maybe she should add a hat. What kind of hat? Jane couldn't see her creation being the type to wear any sort of cloche. A dress was also out of the question, Carley was more practical than that. She was a part of the butcher gang, after all. Or, going to be.

Jane eventually decided on a bowler hat. She adjusted the hair to resemble horns; it definitely matched Bendy now. 

What was next? She carefully crafted a sleeveless top and pants, somewhat resembling Boris's overalls. Perhaps she could throw in a bit of lipstick like Alice Angel wore. Finally, she blocked out her oversized boots and spent at least five minutes fixing her gloves and fingers.

There. Perfect. She had her final draft. Jane held it up and admired her piece with a bright smile. Now all that was left to do was submit her idea to Mr. Drew. Her heart gave a little flutter. She hoped he liked the idea.

The page was ripped from her hands. Jane whirled around to find a trio of her coworkers snickering at her drawing. They'd been doing that all week, and she had learned to block it out after a while. But now, they'd decided to confront her.

"So this is what you've been doing all week," The curly haired brunet holding the page sneered at her. "Is this your little fan project? You're really still at it?"

"Give it back, Daniel," Jane snapped icily and lunged forward. He stepped back and held it out of her reach.

"It's never going to work, Jane," Kim piped up, batting her false lashes at her. "Best not to waste your breath, hon."

"Carley will work," Jane combatted and reached up on her tiptoes to try and snag the drawing. Daniel was a full foot taller than her and barely even had to try warding her off.

"You're not special, Jane," Daniel replied. "Nor is your little cloudy friend here. Mr. Drew isn't going to bat an eye at this. You think we haven't tried? He doesn't listen to any of us."

"She's a ghost," Jane corrected, fighting hard to hold back tears. She wouldn't give them the pleasure of seeing her reaction. Was that true? Would Mr. Drew not care?

"Oh, that's cool," Richard complimented, eyes glued to her drawing. Daniel and Kim shot him a poisonous look. He quickly ducked his head and shut his mouth with a squeak.

"We're just trying to help you out here, Jane. This isn't going to work. Better to crush those dreams before they even start." With that, Daniel crumpled up the drawing in his fist.

Jane felt like her soul had been stomped on. Daniel tossed it onto the ground with a dismissive side glance. "Look, it's amusing. Cute, even. But big ideas are... not for you." With that, he turned and sauntered back to his table. Kim followed him like a lost puppy, giggling all the way. She was such a suck up...

Richard eyed his friends before reaching down and picking up her drawing. Jane steeled herself for more humiliation.

The young man only straightened out the drawing to the best of his ability and gave it a smile before handing it back to her. "Um... I think Carley is pretty cool," He said lowly, if a bit sheepishly. "I think you should show it to Mr. Drew."

Jane blinked. Was she hallucinating? "What...?"

"Your idea," He clarified with a bit more confidence. 

"Oh..." Jane murmured and held the drawing closer to her chest. So she wasn't imagining that. "Thank you."

Richard brightened up a little and the tension in his face faded. It only lasted for a split second before a shout made him stiff as a statue.

"Rich!" Daniel was staring at them now with an irate grimace. Kim was looking over his shoulder in curiosity. "Your food is getting cold."

"Coming!" Richard called before giving Jane a light smile. "Good luck.”

Jane was left standing there, frustration, despondence, and relief mingling around in her head. She looked back down at her drawing. The wrinkles threw off her proportions and angles, but Carley was still there despite it all.

One day Carley would come to fruition. Maybe not now, maybe not a month from now… But one day. She wasn’t going anywhere until it happened.

[compassionatereminders]

I am so deeply stressed out. Me and my partner had to leave a really toxic job (the last day I worked they had me in tears over a very very simple miscommunication error that I was actively correcting when my manager interrupted me to talk about how horrible I am) but we didn't have anything else lined up, so we're both out jobs, and our roommate can't work because of disabilities, but he's also not on disability yet, so we have literally no income right now

and we're applying, but every job we apply to is like. haha, wait two weeks before you get to see if you get one interview, and then if you do, wait another couple to see if you get the second round of it or the job !!! suffer and die forever !!

And even then, i've gotten like. two interviews. and our dog might need another vet visit (his tails all weird, long story but he's in a cone and we're doing what we can for it at home (vet assisted) so he's not. DYING but it's still concerning because we don't know whats gonna happen with his tail or not) which we just DONT have the money for, and my phone bill is up soon, and i need my phone going because, interviews. but i have like. a third of what i need for it. and also rent is something (thankfully it's not much, we live with the roommates parents so its like 400 a month but still)

and we're running low on food. because of course we are.

my partner has a job that seems v promising (he's done the interview and the people really liked him it seemed) but he still needs to wait a few weeks, and i'm applying to at least a couple places a day, but my options are so limited cause I just can't interact with people daily in a customer service way (like being a waiter and the like) and no one is getting back to me.

also thankfully my roommate has an appointment with his therapist (free therapy for being considered SMI, so we got that) in the next couple days to properly talk about food stamps/disability, i'm just. we couldn't stick around in that environment, it was actively making me so bad I was worried I'd need to go inpatient. But i so wish we had stuck around until we found a new job, no matter how bad my mental health was falling because it just feels like nothings getting better.

This situation sounds really horrible, scary and incredibly stressful and my heart goes out to you and your loved ones! But I really don't blame you for having to leave a job that was mistreating you and destroying your mental health. I just hope you manage to find a new source of income very soon and that you'll all be okay ❤️

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

“spop is such a diverse show, it has good representation!”

the diversity and good representation in question:

an abusive lesbian couple

a bisexual couple who were paired off at the last possible moment with no prior romantic chemistry

the only non-binary character is an inhuman shapeshifter who looks like a reptile

the only autistic character is literally leashed by the "good guys" and repeatedly berated for not being normal enough

the only physically disabled character is a villain whose disability is taken advantage of by the abusive catgirl

the half-cat half-human hybrid who displays a lot of animalistic traits including being aggressive and violent is said to be latina

the neurodivergent queer kid is the show's punching bag and is constantly harrassed for the sake of comedy

saying that some of the characters are bisexual feels like an afterthought, as they don't actually show any signs of being bisexual

only polyamorous couple in the show is the bullied queer kid, his bully and the bully's enabler (of sorts)

the only character with a facial disfigurement is another antagonist who is painted as pure evil despite being a lot more nuanced than some of the other characters